You can now chat with me directly and anonymously using the Signal app.

Why Signal: Signal is a non-profit that is all about privacy.

• Your number stays private: You need your phone number to register, but unless someone already has you in their phone contacts, they won’t see it. And vice versa.

• Your name is protected: Others can only see the name you use on Signal. Signal makes using a last name optional, and you can set your first name as needed.

• You can create a username: for extra anonymity. Here’s how to do it. Signal keeps it separate from your number, so you can share it with those you don’t know well yet.

Why this: Because sometimes, getting deep is needed, and there aren’t always good options for it.

This is a space to explore the things that matter, without judgment—or get advice or perspective, without having to worry about how you sound.

And no, you don’t have to be “spiritual.” There is no right way to come to these conversations—it’s here for people who need it. Whether it’s basic questions or deep ones. Messy ones or nuanced ones.

What to expect: space to be real—however that may look.

In just the last few months, I’ve connected with people who started from complete spiritual skepticism, to people already on a journey who weren’t sure where to go next. People studying and wishing they weren’t, to people working and wondering if they should go back to school. People dealing with things no one should have to, and people dealing with things everyone goes through.

But a lot of that was via in-person chats and phone calls. By offering this , I’m hoping to make it easier for those who might want to connect, but want to stay private or anonymous—or those who have tricky topics to discuss, to take the pressure off.

That way, if you never want to talk again after that first time—you can do so without guilt. Or, if you want to keep chatting over time, you can do it on a platform that actually respects your privacy. And, if you decide you want to set up a phone call, you’ve already tested it out, and we have a cadence so it’s easier to do so.

The point is, this is completely on your terms. Wherever you are - whether you're drowning in doubt, feeling spiritually empty, or just exhausted from trying to figure it out - that's exactly the right place to begin. If you freeze up or don't know what to say, I'll gently guide our conversation forward. If you’ve got a lot to say and just want to be heard, I’ve got you.

How (and why) I approach this

There’s an old saying with a rich history in many places in South-Central Africa. It translates roughly to: “hold up that which holds you up.”

We are not givers and takers, but beings in relationship with each other.

The gifts we are given impact how we relate to the world. In the way that an artist will find the spirit in the artistic, or that a researcher will find comfort in the known, or that a chef will take pleasure in serving a perfect dish—the spiritual is my easel, my desk, and my kitchen.

The journey has been profound—but in truth, it was born with me, it transformed me again and again, and it has taught me something at each of the most painful—and most joyful—periods in my life. In other words, it’s what I’m here for. And I’ll share it with you for as long as I can. Free until it stops being manageable.

—P